You will never be brave if you do not get hurt. You will never learn if you do not make mistakes. You will never be successful if you do not encounter failures.
Negative results do not mean they will happen again and again because we will always start from the ground just to appreciate our way to the top.
We push away people because we don’t want any more pain.
We stitch our own wounds because we know no one has time to help us.
We fight our battles alone because we know no one’s going to save us.
We keep our mouths shut because we know no one would dare to listen.
We keep our hearts cold because we know no one wants to make them warm.
But these are just lies we tell ourselves because we think we’re protecting ourselves from harm when we’re inflicting it to our own selves. We need to stop overthinking.
At one point in our lives, we give our all to that someone we treat so special that we think they would also do the same for us. But then, not all of them would do the same.
Some would just ignore it, then ignore us sooner or later. Then we’re left hanging, not knowing what to do anymore because all we think of is the pain that we’re feeling after what they’ve done to us.
It’s not always about giving your all. We give what we only need to give, and we should receive what we only need to receive.
Giving your all is a risk, and you should know about what you’re risking. Be prepared for the consequences of your actions. Never give anything if you’re not prepared to receive nothing in return.
Everything means somethin’. Don’t try to change somethin’ wild into somethin’ tame.
Amma | Beautiful Creatures
Most of the time we hurt ourselves, not because we like to feel pain, but because we do not learn from our mistakes and we keep on doing what we know isn’t right.
Sometimes, people need to be alone, not because someone will come and make them happy, but because they have to learn how to find happiness without relying on other people.
You can’t ask someone to hold on if you’re giving them reasons to let go. And you can’t tell people to let go when you’ve been giving them reasons to hold on.
“To love and to be loved.”
Maybe it is one of the most epic things that may happen to us.
We just need to have the perfect time, perefect place, and the perfect person to experience that. But of course, the word “perfect” depends on how we interpret it. Some may call a thing simple, but others call it perfect — just like in love.
When we get hurt, we usually create a wall so that we won’t get hurt by the same people again. But it will crumble down once it is touched by the people who hurt us, because we still love them. And we still hope that they’d come back and love us again, but it doesn’t happen to all of us.
We rebuild the wall again, it crumbles down. And the same process goes on and on, until we’re tired of doing the same thing for how many times.
We change without us noticing it. And people around us notice it. We tell them we didn’t change, when in fact we really changed.
When we’ve been through a lot, we change. Some of us change for the better, while some of us change for the worse. And some of us retain our old selves.
But no matter what happens, whether you’ve changed or not, you will see those who are true to you and those who understand you for what you are and for what you have become. Don’t drive them away. They are the ones who will stick with you through thick and thin — your real friends.
Hold on when you know you still have something to hold on to. Let go if you know there’s nothing there anymore.
But we’re hard headed. We know that there’s nothing there anymore, yet we still hold on.
But what’s important is we learn after letting go of what’s not there anymore.
Sometimes, we get tired.
We get tired of waiting. We get tired of hoping. We tired of feeling sad. We get tired of giving. We get tired of loving. We get tired of our problems.
We get tired of almost everything, but we shouldn’t give up. It’s normal that we feel tired. All we need to do is make a short stop and take some rest of whatever we are tired of.
But if you know it’s time that you put an end on something you’re tired of, do something about it. Whining will not help you.
Maybe it’s time that I should stop searching. Maybe it’s time to be contented of what I have. Maybe it’s time to stop hurting myself. Maybe. Maybe…
Just because you avoid something doesn’t mean you can avoid it forever. Sooner or later, you need to face it, and you’ll stop avoiding it.
Sometimes, you need to stop relying on your own. You have friends to rely on to. Ask for some advice, ask for some guidance. You know they can help you. Just don’t abuse them.
Sometimes, all you got to do is do nothing but be silent. It’s to give them the impression that what they did to you was wrong, and you are not putting up with the shit that they just did to you.
It’s not being ill-mannered. It’s about teaching them that everything they do to you will not be tolerated, especially if it concerns the trust you gave them.